During this time in history, we have more single parents than ever before. We see more and more men not only leaving but also not supporting their children. With the ability to remain more disconnected emotionally we see more "serial dating" or " hit it and quit it". All of the sex without love, accountability, or emotional commitment. It is enough for a woman to literally go numb. There are many ways to spot a man who will be a potential wolf in your life by honing in on some key language he may use when talking about himself, life, or relationships.
1) " I don't like to play games"
When he says that, he is playing a game. He is warning you he is going to lie to you and don't you dare try and catch him.
2) " My ex left me for another guy"
We know this happens to both men and women. However, when you see a situation where a man tells you 3-4 of his past relationships have left him for another man. This can be a sign that you also may find yourself kicking a flat tire . It is a sign of laziness and having a stagnant relationship.
3) " I am looking to get married".
If you are on date three or less and he is already talking marriage. Do not think his talking about marriage means he is serious about doing it. It is a sign that he is looking to get carried away in a fast romance and can easily change his mind on getting married. Men who are serious about getting married are typically more low key about it until they get to know you better.
4) More responses via text and email rather than phone/in-person
In the tech age we are in, more people rely upon email and text to communicate. Statistics show if he leans on texts and emailing to demonstrate more of the intricate communication in the relationship, he is not emotionally invested and will easily end the relationship via text or email at his convenience.
5) My family has to accept you
A man should get to know you for himself first and determine solely upon his own if you are the right person for him. There is the kind of man out there where he allows his family to inappropriately become involved in his relationship. If you are confronted with mothers, sisters, brother etc.. early on and he makes you feel like you have to please other people first to prove yourself to him.
This is someone who will rely upon his family to meddle and become involved in personal decisions that should be between the two of you. In addition, this person is not emotionally available for you to date him and he will be passive and let others tell him what to do.
I sometimes see women who are flattered and take it as a "good sign" when she is introduced to the mother/sister early on. It may not be. They may have met everyone he has ever dated and seen it all. You may develop a better relationship with his family and it could cause him to distance himself from you. Here you are trying to please him and he actually wants the tension where he enjoys dating a "problem person" to give some fodder for his family to feel sorry for him. You then prove him wrong when you are the "good girl" and he can't play the victim with his family.
It's a double edged sword. Meeting the family can help you learn more about him. Most women do not pay attention to what they learn and they spend too much time trying to please people when they should be spending that time determining if they are in the right relationship. Be nice but also keep eyes wide open.
1) " I don't like to play games"
When he says that, he is playing a game. He is warning you he is going to lie to you and don't you dare try and catch him.
2) " My ex left me for another guy"
We know this happens to both men and women. However, when you see a situation where a man tells you 3-4 of his past relationships have left him for another man. This can be a sign that you also may find yourself kicking a flat tire . It is a sign of laziness and having a stagnant relationship.
3) " I am looking to get married".
If you are on date three or less and he is already talking marriage. Do not think his talking about marriage means he is serious about doing it. It is a sign that he is looking to get carried away in a fast romance and can easily change his mind on getting married. Men who are serious about getting married are typically more low key about it until they get to know you better.
4) More responses via text and email rather than phone/in-person
In the tech age we are in, more people rely upon email and text to communicate. Statistics show if he leans on texts and emailing to demonstrate more of the intricate communication in the relationship, he is not emotionally invested and will easily end the relationship via text or email at his convenience.
5) My family has to accept you
A man should get to know you for himself first and determine solely upon his own if you are the right person for him. There is the kind of man out there where he allows his family to inappropriately become involved in his relationship. If you are confronted with mothers, sisters, brother etc.. early on and he makes you feel like you have to please other people first to prove yourself to him.
This is someone who will rely upon his family to meddle and become involved in personal decisions that should be between the two of you. In addition, this person is not emotionally available for you to date him and he will be passive and let others tell him what to do.
I sometimes see women who are flattered and take it as a "good sign" when she is introduced to the mother/sister early on. It may not be. They may have met everyone he has ever dated and seen it all. You may develop a better relationship with his family and it could cause him to distance himself from you. Here you are trying to please him and he actually wants the tension where he enjoys dating a "problem person" to give some fodder for his family to feel sorry for him. You then prove him wrong when you are the "good girl" and he can't play the victim with his family.
It's a double edged sword. Meeting the family can help you learn more about him. Most women do not pay attention to what they learn and they spend too much time trying to please people when they should be spending that time determining if they are in the right relationship. Be nice but also keep eyes wide open.
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